What Kind Of Guy Is Right For Me Quiz?

Okay, real talk time. We’ve all been there, sitting in our pajamas at midnight, scrolling through dating apps like we’re shopping for groceries. Swipe left on the guy with the gym selfies, swipe right on the one with the golden retriever, then immediately panic because what if he’s actually a serial killer who just borrowed someone’s dog for better photos?

Here’s the thing though – and I learned this the hard way after dating a guy who collected vintage spoons (yes, that’s a real thing that happened to me) – sometimes we have absolutely no clue what we actually want in a partner. Like, we think we want the bad boy with the motorcycle, but then we meet him and realize we actually need someone who remembers to text us back and knows how to do laundry.

So let’s figure this out together, because honestly? Your heart already knows the answer, we just need to help your brain catch up.

10 questions to decode what your heart actually wants

No judgment here, just honest answers about your real preferences

Points that add up to show you your actual type (not who you think you should want)

Real talk about the kind of love that’ll actually make you happy

Ready to get brutally honest about your dating patterns? Let’s dive in. ✨

💫 Question 1: It’s Friday night and you’re planning the perfect date. What sounds amazing right now?

a) Something totally spontaneous – maybe we’ll end up at a 24-hour diner or dancing in the rain (3 points)
b) A nice dinner somewhere we can actually talk, maybe walk around downtown after (2 points)
c) Honestly? Netflix and takeout sounds perfect, maybe cook something together (1 point)
d) Something impressive – that new rooftop restaurant everyone’s talking about, or a show I can post about (0 points)

🎯 Question 2: Your friends are describing your dream guy. What do they say first?

a) “He’s gotta be able to keep up with her crazy adventures” (3 points)
b) “Someone stable who won’t break her heart again” (2 points)
c) “Just a genuinely good guy who makes her laugh” (1 point)
d) “Successful, ambitious, someone who challenges her intellectually” (0 points)

🌊 Question 3: You’re having a panic attack about work/life/everything. What do you need from your partner?

a) “Let’s go for a drive and figure this out together” – someone who helps me escape my head (3 points)
b) A shoulder to cry on and reassurance that everything will work out (2 points)
c) Just sit with me, maybe make me tea, let me vent without trying to fix everything (1 point)
d) Help me make a plan and tackle this problem head-on (0 points)

🏠 Question 4: You’re imagining your life in 5 years. What makes you happiest in that picture?

a) We’re traveling somewhere new, maybe living in different cities for his job, always having adventures (3 points)
b) A cozy house, maybe some kids, Sunday morning pancakes and feeling totally secure (2 points)
c) Just us being completely comfortable together, laughing at inside jokes, totally ourselves (1 point)
d) We’re both killing it in our careers, power couple energy, inspiring each other to be better (0 points)

💰 Question 5: Money talk (because we have to). What matters most to you?

a) He’s passionate about something, even if he’s not rich – I want someone who lives fully (3 points)
b) Financial stability matters, but he doesn’t need to be wealthy, just responsible (2 points)
c) As long as we can pay bills and have some fun, money isn’t everything (1 point)
d) I want someone ambitious who’s going places – I’m attracted to success and drive (0 points)

🎨 Question 6: He’s planning a surprise for your birthday. What would make you melt?

a) Something totally unexpected – maybe a surprise road trip or tickets to see my favorite band (3 points)
b) He remembers everything I love and plans something thoughtful, like recreating our first date (2 points)
c) Honestly? Just spending the whole day together doing whatever, no pressure to be impressive (1 point)
d) Something that shows he really knows me – like that art class I mentioned or dinner at that place I’ve been wanting to try (0 points)

🗣️ Question 7: You guys are having your first real fight. How do you want him to handle it?

a) Give me space to cool off, then talk it through without getting too heavy or dramatic (3 points)
b) Be patient with my emotions and work through it calmly until we both feel heard (2 points)
c) Just be real with me, no games, say what he means even if it’s messy (1 point)
d) Approach it logically, focus on solving the problem rather than just venting feelings (0 points)

🌟 Question 8: What’s your biggest dating fear, if you’re being totally honest?

a) Getting stuck with someone boring who kills my sense of adventure (3 points)
b) Being with someone unreliable who can’t handle real life responsibilities (2 points)
c) Finding someone who doesn’t actually like the real me, just the version I present (1 point)
d) Settling for someone who doesn’t challenge me or help me grow (0 points)

💕 Question 9: Your ideal Sunday morning with him looks like:

a) Waking up somewhere random because we decided to drive to the beach last night (3 points)
b) Slow morning in bed, then brunch and maybe some errands, just easy domestic stuff (2 points)
c) Coffee in bed, talking about everything and nothing, maybe not leaving the house at all (1 point)
d) Planning our week over coffee, maybe hitting the farmer’s market, productive but fun (0 points)

🎭 Question 10: When you think about the love you want, what word comes to mind first?

a) Exciting – I want passion and adventure and someone who makes life feel like a movie (3 points)
b) Safe – I want to feel totally secure and know he’s not going anywhere (2 points)
c) Easy – I want it to feel natural, like we just fit together without trying so hard (1 point)
d) Inspiring – I want someone who makes me want to be the best version of myself (0 points)

🧮 Calculate Your Score

Okay babe, time for the moment of truth. Add up all those points – and don’t you dare go back and change answers because you don’t like where this is heading. We’re being honest here, remember? Your total should be somewhere between 0 and 30.

Got your number? Here’s what your heart’s been trying to tell you about the kind of love you actually need:

📊 Your Results

🌪️ 21-30 Points: You Need The Adventure Guy

Girl, you are not built for boring! Like, the thought of coming home to the same routine every night probably makes you want to fake your own death and move to Bali, right? You need someone who gets that life is supposed to be fun, unpredictable, and a little bit crazy sometimes.

Your perfect guy is the one who texts you at 2 PM on a Tuesday like “want to drive to the mountains?” and you don’t even hesitate before saying yes. He’s probably got some stories that would make your grandmother clutch her pearls, and his idea of a perfect date involves zero reservations and maximum spontaneity.

Here’s what you probably love about this type: He makes you feel alive in a way that steady, predictable guys just don’t. When you’re with him, you’re the most interesting version of yourself. You laugh harder, try things you never thought you would, and feel like you’re actually living instead of just existing.

But let’s keep it real for a second – this type can also drive you absolutely insane sometimes. Like when you need him to just be present and he’s already planning your next adventure. Or when you want to talk about feelings and he suggests going skydiving instead.

What to look for: Someone who’s spontaneous but not flaky, adventurous but not reckless. You want the guy who’ll plan surprise trips but also remembers your mom’s birthday. Free-spirited energy with just enough responsibility to make you feel secure.

Red flags to avoid: The guy who’s so “spontaneous” that he can’t hold down a job or commit to anything, including you. Adventure is sexy, but instability gets old real fast.

🏡 11-20 Points: You Need The Steady Guy

Honey, you’ve been through enough drama for three lifetimes, and what you actually want is someone who feels like coming home after a really long day. You’re not boring for wanting this – you’re mature enough to know that butterflies are fun, but feeling safe and secure is everything.

Your perfect guy is probably the one all your friends’ moms ask about. He remembers to change your oil, brings you soup when you’re sick, and has never once made you wonder if he’s actually into you. His idea of romance might be more “let’s plan our budget together” than “let’s run away to Paris,” but honestly? That sounds pretty perfect right now.

What you love about this type: You can actually relax with him. Like, full-body, brain-off, don’t-have-to-perform-or-impress-anyone relaxation. He’s consistent, reliable, and when he says he’s going to do something, he actually does it. Revolutionary concept, right?

The thing about steady guys is they’re not flashy. They’re not going to give you those crazy highs that make you feel like you’re in a movie. But they’re also not going to give you those crushing lows that make you question everything about yourself at 3 AM.

What to look for: Consistency in his actions, not just his words. Someone who shows up for the boring stuff, not just the fun parts. A guy who’s built a real life, not just living in the moment all the time.

Red flags to avoid: Don’t mistake boring for steady. Your guy should still make you laugh, still surprise you sometimes, still have his own interests and opinions. Steady doesn’t mean dead inside.

🤗 1-10 Points: You Need The Genuine Guy

Oh sweetie, you just want someone real, don’t you? Like, genuinely real. Not putting on an act, not trying to impress you with fancy dinners or dramatic gestures. Just someone who likes you for exactly who you are and isn’t afraid to be exactly who he is right back.

Your perfect guy is probably the one who makes terrible jokes that somehow always make you laugh anyway. He’s comfortable being quiet with you, remembers weird random things you’ve said, and somehow makes grocery shopping feel like a date. He’s not trying to be anyone’s idea of perfect – he’s just authentically himself.

Here’s what draws you to this type: There’s no performance, no games, no wondering what he’s really thinking. What you see is what you get, and what you get is someone who thinks you’re pretty amazing just as you are. You can eat pizza in your ugliest sweatpants around him and still feel beautiful.

The beautiful thing about genuine guys is that love with them feels… easy. Not boring-easy, but natural-easy. Like you’re not constantly working to maintain his interest or figure out where you stand. You just fit together in this comfortable, sustainable way.

What to look for: Someone who’s the same person whether you’re alone or with other people. A guy who’s interested in your actual thoughts and feelings, not just trying to get you to like him. Consistency between his values and his actions.

Red flags to avoid: Don’t confuse “genuine” with “lazy.” Your guy should still put effort into the relationship, still try to make you happy, still grow as a person. Real doesn’t mean stagnant.

🎯 0 Points: You Need The Ambitious Guy

Okay, so you got zero points, which either means you’re lying to yourself about what you want, or you’re attracted to men who have their lives together and aren’t afraid to go after what they want. And honestly? There’s nothing wrong with that, even if people try to make you feel shallow for caring about success.

Your perfect guy probably has a five-year plan, reads books that aren’t assigned to him, and gets genuinely excited talking about his goals. He’s not necessarily rich (yet), but he’s hungry in the best possible way. When he talks about the future, you can actually picture it happening because he’s the type to make things happen.

What you love about this type: He challenges you to be better, inspires you to dream bigger, and matches your own ambition and drive. You’re not looking for someone to take care of you – you want someone who can keep up with you. When you’re both working toward something, the team energy is intoxicating.

But here’s where it gets tricky – ambitious guys can also be so focused on their goals that relationships become another item on their to-do list. And sometimes their ambition comes with a side of ego that’s not super fun to live with.

What to look for: Someone whose ambition includes making room for love in his life. A guy who’s driven but not ruthless, competitive but not with you. He should inspire you, not make you feel like you’re competing for his attention with his career.

Red flags to avoid: The guy who’s so focused on success that he treats you like a trophy or an accessory to his perfect life. Also watch out for guys who talk a big game but don’t actually put in the work – dreams without action get old fast.

💝 The Truth About “Types” (Because Someone Needs To Say This)

Listen, I need to tell you something that might mess with your head a little bit: sometimes the guy who’s right for you isn’t actually your “type” at all. Like, maybe you’ve been chasing adventure guys your whole life, but what you actually need right now is someone steady. Or maybe you think you want someone ambitious, but you’re actually craving someone genuine who just sees you.

Here’s what I’ve learned from watching my friends (and myself, let’s be honest) make the same dating mistakes over and over: we often confuse what we’re attracted to with what we actually need. And sometimes what we’re attracted to is actually what’s bad for us, because it feels familiar, even if that familiarity comes from unhealthy patterns.

So if your results surprised you, don’t ignore that feeling. Maybe it’s time to try dating someone different from your usual type. Maybe that “boring” guy who’s been asking you out is actually exactly what your heart needs, even if your brain thinks he’s not exciting enough.

And if your results totally matched what you expected? Cool, but make sure you’re being honest about the downsides of your type too. Every kind of guy comes with trade-offs, and the sooner you accept that, the better chance you have of finding someone whose flaws you can actually live with.

Remember: there’s no perfect guy, but there might be a perfect-for-you guy. And sometimes he shows up in packaging you weren’t expecting, which is honestly the most beautiful plot twist of all.

Trust your gut, be open to surprises, and please, for the love of all that’s holy, stop trying to change guys into what you want them to be. Find someone whose natural personality already makes you happy, then let him be exactly that.

You deserve love that feels right, not love that looks right on paper. 💕