33 Last Resort Ways to Save Your Marriage From Complete Failure -

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When your marriage feels like it’s hanging by a thread, you’re probably thinking it’s too late to save what you once had. I can tell you from years of working with couples on the brink that there’s always one more move you can make, even when hope seems impossible. These aren’t your typical marriage counseling suggestions – they’re the nuclear options that work when everything else has failed. Here’s what desperate situations actually require.

Take Complete Responsibility for Your Part Without Expecting Reciprocation

When your marriage is in crisis, the most powerful thing you can do is look in the mirror first and take complete responsibility for every mistake, hurtful word, and damaging behavior you’ve contributed to the relationship. This self reflection isn’t about beating yourself up, it’s about honest internal examination.

I can tell you that pointing fingers kills marriages faster than almost anything else. When you say “I’m sorry I shut down emotionally when we fight” instead of “Well, you always yell at me first,” you create space for healing. Don’t expect your spouse to immediately follow your lead. I’ve never seen transformation happen overnight, but taking ownership of your actions without conditions opens doors that blame keeps permanently locked.

True accountability means focusing on solutions and acknowledging mistakes sincerely, rather than deflecting responsibility or making excuses that only create more problems in your relationship.

Implement a 30-Day Communication Moratorium on All Relationship Issues

How do you stop the endless cycle of arguments that keep pulling your marriage deeper into crisis? You implement a complete communication moratorium on all relationship issues for thirty days. I can tell you this sounds counterintuitive, but constant fighting has poisoned your ability to communicate openly about anything meaningful.

During this month, you’ll focus solely on basic logistics: schedules, bills, kids’ needs. No processing feelings, no rehashing past hurts, no discussing your relationship’s problems. When your spouse tries baiting you into familiar arguments, you simply say, “I’m not discussing that right now.”

This break allows your emotional wounds to heal, reduces defensive patterns, and creates space to overcome miscommunication. I’ve never seen couples successfully resolve deep issues when they’re emotionally dysregulated and reactive. Remember that using the silent treatment as punishment or emotional weapon will only make things worse, so clearly communicate that you need this temporary break to reset your communication patterns.

Sleep in the Same Bed Again, Even If You Don’t Want To

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You’ve been sleeping in separate rooms for months, maybe even years, and you’re convinced it’s helping preserve what’s left of your sanity. I can tell you from working with countless couples that physical separation often creates emotional distance that becomes impossible to bridge.

Moving back into the same bed isn’t about romance or passion right now, it’s about rebuilding basic intimacy through proximity. You don’t need to cuddle together immediately, but sharing the same space forces you both to acknowledge each other’s presence. I’ve never seen a marriage recover when spouses remain physically separated long-term.

Start with simple moments, engage in deep listening when your partner speaks before sleep. Physical closeness naturally softens defensive walls that separate bedrooms reinforce. These micro-moments of connection create the foundation for rebuilding intimacy that your marriage desperately needs to survive.

Physical proximity sets the foundation, but your mind needs retraining too. You’re likely to have spent months focusing on everything your spouse does wrong, and that mental pattern won’t change overnight.

I can tell you that daily gratitude letters work because they force your brain to hunt for positives instead of negatives. You write one letter each morning about something you appreciate, even if it’s basic like “Thank you for making coffee.” These heartfelt reflections aren’t meant for sharing—they’re private contemplations that rewire your thinking. I’ve never seen this fail when done consistently for thirty days.

Your spouse might thank you for picking up socks today, but tomorrow you’ll write about their laugh. This practice rebuilds emotional connection from the inside out. Focus your gratitude on appreciating your spouse’s character and qualities rather than just thanking them for completing household tasks, as this helps you see the person behind their daily actions.

Stop All Defensive Behaviors and Practice Radical Acceptance

While gratitude rewrites your internal narrative, defensiveness destroys conversations before they start. I can tell you that every defensive response—justifying, explaining, counterattacking—slams the door on connection.

When your spouse brings up concerns, your instinct screams to defend yourself. Don’t. Instead, listen without preparing rebuttals.

Radical self acceptance means owning your flaws without shame or excuses. When they say you’re distant, respond with “You’re right, I’ve been.” I’ve never seen a marriage heal while one partner clings to being right.

You must abandon expectations of how conversations should go. Stop demanding apologies before offering understanding. Your spouse doesn’t owe you gentle delivery of hard truths. Practice saying “Tell me more” instead of “But I…” This shift creates space for real dialogue.

Remember that defensive walls protect shame, not marriages, and your partner needs to see you facing issues as a team rather than making them the villain for bringing up concerns.

Create a Relationship Vision Board Together

Once you’ve stopped defending and started listening, it’s time to build something together that pulls you toward the same future. I can tell you that couples who build vision board collaboratively create a roadmap that saves marriages from complete collapse.

Get magazines, scissors, glue sticks, and poster board. Sit together without distractions and cut out images representing your shared dreams – travel destinations, family moments, home improvements, career goals.

Don’t rush this process. When you visualize shared goals together, you’re literally creating a physical reminder of why you’re fighting for this relationship. I’ve never seen a couple complete this exercise without rediscovering common ground they’d forgotten existed.

Place your finished board somewhere you’ll both see it daily, letting it guide your decisions back toward each other. Remember that every crisis becomes an opportunity to discover deeper intimacy when you face challenges as a united team rather than adversaries.

Schedule Weekly Silent Activities to Rebuild Non-Verbal Connection

After you’ve created that vision board, you need to recall that connection isn’t always about talking – sometimes the most powerful moments happen in complete silence. I can tell you that couples who schedule weekly silent activities often rediscover intimacy they thought was lost forever.

Start with simple activities like cooking together without speaking, taking quiet walks, or practicing yoga side by side. Focus on non verbal cue observation – watch how your partner moves, breathes, and responds to your presence. I’ve never seen a technique work faster than establishing physical touch routines during these silent moments. Hold hands while walking, place your hand on their back while cooking, or simply sit close enough to feel their warmth. These wordless connections rebuild trust through pure presence and touch. During these quiet moments together, simple gestures like brushing their arm when passing by or giving a quick hug while preparing meals can make your partner feel genuinely desired again.

Implement the 24-Hour Rule Before Responding to Triggering Conversations

When your partner says something that makes your blood boil, your brain’s fight-or-flight response kicks in within milliseconds, and I can tell you that responding in this state destroys more marriages than infidelity ever could. You need a buffer zone between trigger and response.

You need a buffer zone between trigger and response. When your spouse drops a conversational bomb, say “I need 24 hours to process this properly” and walk away. Don’t explain, don’t defend, don’t engage. During those 24 hours, your nervous system resets, allowing you to maintain emotional composure instead of reacting from pure emotion.

I’ve never seen a couple regret taking this pause, but I’ve watched countless marriages implode because someone couldn’t avoid defensive reactions. This rule saves relationships by preventing the verbal warfare that kills intimacy forever.

Remember that criticism attacks your partner’s character rather than addressing specific behaviors, so using this 24-hour cooling period helps you respond to actions without launching personal assaults that create lasting damage.

Take Turns Being Completely Vulnerable About Your Deepest Fears

Most couples spend years building emotional walls instead of bridges, and I can tell you that sharing your deepest fears with your partner creates the kind of intimacy that bulletproofs marriages against divorce.

Confessing vulnerabilities requires courage, but it’s where real connection begins. Set aside uninterrupted time and take turns sharing what terrifies you most – fear of abandonment, inadequacy, financial ruin, losing your children’s respect.

I’ve never seen a couple stay emotionally distant after sharing deepest emotions honestly. When you reveal that you’re scared of not being enough, your partner finally understands your defensive behaviors.

This exercise strips away pretense, creates profound empathy, and builds the emotional foundation that makes couples fight for their marriage instead of against each other. When personal conversations hit a wall, professional help can provide the unbiased facilitation needed to navigate these vulnerable exchanges successfully.

Eliminate All Third-Party Relationship Discussions for 60 Days

Though it sounds counterintuitive, you’re sabotaging your marriage every time you discuss your relationship problems with friends, family members, or coworkers, and I can tell you that eliminating these conversations for just sixty days will dramatically shift how you handle conflict with your spouse.

When you avoid relationship analysis with outsiders, you’ll force yourselves to work through issues together. Here’s what happens when you limit self reflection discussions with third parties:

You stop collecting ammunition – Friends’ negative opinions become weapons you’ll use later
Your spouse feels respected – They’re not being dissected behind their back
You develop real communication skills – No more running to others for validation
Intimacy deepens – Your problems become sacred space between you two

I’ve never seen a couple regret protecting their marriage this way. Instead of seeking outside validation, establish regular relationship check-ins where you discuss issues together when you’re not in the heat of an argument, catching small problems before they become larger ones.

Practice Mirror Work to Address Your Own Emotional Triggers

Now that you’ve committed to keeping your relationship issues private, you need to tackle the real source of most marital conflicts: your own emotional baggage. I can tell you, most couples blame their partner when they’re actually reacting from old wounds and unhealed trauma.

Start a daily self reflection practice by standing in front of your bathroom mirror for five minutes each morning. Ask yourself: “What am I really angry about?” Write down what comes up through inner dialogue journaling. Don’t filter it, just let your thoughts flow onto paper.

When your spouse triggers you, pause and ask: “Is this about them, or is this about something deeper in me?” I’ve never seen a marriage transform without both partners doing this uncomfortable inner work first.

Create New Rituals to Replace Toxic Argument Patterns

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After you’ve started identifying your emotional triggers, you need to build new communication pathways that actually work. I can tell you from experience, toxic patterns won’t disappear overnight, but you can replace them with rituals that explore emotional connection instead of tearing it down.

Here’s what actually works when you create shared goals for healthier communication:

Weekly check-ins – Set a timer for fifteen minutes, no phones, just honest conversation about feelings
Pause protocols – When arguments escalate, both partners take a ten-minute break before continuing
Gratitude exchanges – Share one thing you appreciated about each other daily
Problem-solving sessions – Address issues when you’re calm, not during heated moments

These rituals rewire your relationship’s default responses, creating safety instead of defensiveness.

Write Letters to Your Younger Selves About What You’ve Learned

These new rituals will strengthen your foundation, but sometimes you need to go deeper to understand how you both arrived at this difficult place. I can tell you that writing letters to your younger selves creates profound breakthroughs in struggling marriages.

Sit separately and write to who you were before marriage, before heartbreak shaped your responses. Reflect on childhood dreams that got buried under bills, responsibilities, and disappointments. Share what you’ve learned about love’s real challenges, not the fairy tale version you believed.

Then write to your future selves. Envision future aspirations together, describing the marriage you’re fighting to save. I’ve never seen couples fail to reconnect after this exercise. These letters reveal vulnerability, remind you why you fell in love, and create roadmap for healing.

Implement Scheduled Appreciation Sessions

The forgotten art of appreciation can resurrect even the most damaged marriages, but it requires intentionality that most couples abandon after their honeymoon phase. You’re likely thinking this sounds forced, but I can tell you that designated appreciation slots work when nothing else will. These scheduled gratitude sessions create structure around acknowledging each other’s worth.

Structured appreciation sessions transform dying marriages when couples commit to intentional gratitude beyond their honeymoon phase.

Here’s your blueprint for implementation:

Choose sacred timing – Sunday mornings or Wednesday evenings, pick what’s realistic for your schedule
Set strict boundaries – No phones, no interruptions, just eye contact and honest words
Focus on specific behaviors – “Thank you for taking out trash without being asked” beats generic compliments
Take turns speaking – Five minutes each, no rebuttals or corrections allowed

I’ve never seen this fail when couples commit consistently.

Take a Technology Detox Together

When screens dominate your relationship more than actual conversation, you’ve crossed into dangerous territory that silently destroys marriages from the inside out. I can tell you that couples who scroll through phones during dinner, respond to texts mid-conversation, or choose Netflix over pillow talk are creating emotional distance that compounds daily.

Your digital detox doesn’t require dramatic measures. Start with phone-free meals, bedroom technology bans, or weekend mornings without devices. I’ve never seen a couple regret taking a technology break together. Instead, they rediscover forgotten intimacy through uninterrupted eye contact, deeper conversations, and physical touch that actually connects.

Set specific boundaries, hold each other accountable, and watch how removing digital distractions creates space for the emotional closeness your marriage desperately needs.

Practice the 5-to-1 Rule for Positive Interactions

Research consistently proves that marriages need five positive interactions for every negative one to survive and thrive, yet most struggling couples I work with operate at ratios closer to one-to-one or worse. You’re fundamentally drowning your relationship in negativity without realizing it. I can tell you that changing this ratio will transform your connection faster than any other strategy.

Start tracking your daily interactions and deliberately tip the scales:

Express genuine appreciation for small gestures he makes
Show empathy when she shares frustrations from work
Cultivate gratitude by mentioning three things you love about him
Offer physical affection without expecting anything in return

I’ve never seen a couple fail when they consistently maintain this ratio, because positive moments create emotional safety that makes difficult conversations actually productive.

Create Separate Recovery Plans for Individual Healing

Building positive momentum in your relationship works wonders, but you can’t fix deep-seated patterns without addressing the individual wounds each partner carries into the marriage. I can tell you from experience, this step separates couples who truly heal from those who just patch things up temporarily.

You both need separate recovery plans, and I mean detailed roadmaps for your individual healing journeys. Start with individual counseling sessions to unpack your personal baggage without your spouse present. This isn’t betrayal, it’s preparation. I’ve never seen lasting change without each person doing their own emotional work first.

Consider couples retreat planning after you’ve both made progress individually. When you understand your own triggers, patterns, and healing needs, you’ll bring strength to your marriage instead of expecting it to fix you.

Establish Non-Negotiable Daily Check-ins

Although you’ve done the individual work, your marriage won’t heal without intentional daily connection, and I’ve seen too many couples assume good intentions are enough. You need structured conversations to establish consistent goals and maintain mutual accountability, or you’ll drift apart despite your best efforts.

I can tell you that couples who survive implement these non-negotiable daily practices:

Morning intention setting – Share one specific thing you’ll do for your relationship that day
Evening gratitude exchange – Name something you appreciated about your partner, no matter how small
Vulnerability moment – Express one genuine feeling without blame or criticism
Tomorrow’s commitment – State one concrete action you’ll take to strengthen your bond

These aren’t suggestions; they’re lifelines that create the intimacy you’re desperately seeking.

Practice Emotional Freedom Technique Together

When your daily check-ins become emotionally charged or you hit walls of resentment, you’ll need a tool that goes deeper than conversation alone, and that’s where Emotional Freedom Technique becomes your secret weapon. I can tell you that EFT isn’t just new-age nonsense – it’s a practical method that helps couples tap into emotional awareness while physically releasing tension together.

Here’s how you’ll do it: sit facing each other, identify the specific emotion you’re feeling, then gently tap on pressure points while verbalizing what’s bothering you. Your partner mirrors your movements, creating synchronized healing. I’ve never seen anything help couples explore shared experiences quite like this. The physical act breaks down emotional barriers, letting you both access feelings that words alone can’t reach.

Write Your Own Marriage Contract With New Rules

After you’ve created emotional alignment through EFT, you’re ready to tackle what I consider the most transformative step in rebuilding your marriage: creating your own personalized marriage contract that replaces those outdated vows you made years ago.

This isn’t about legal documents, it’s about establishing custom boundaries and shared expectations that reflect who you’ve become. I can tell you, couples who skip this step often repeat the same destructive patterns.

Your contract should include:

Daily connection rituals – specific times you’ll talk without distractions
Conflict resolution rules – how you’ll handle disagreements respectfully
Individual space agreements – boundaries that protect your personal growth
Intimacy commitments – emotional and physical connection standards you both agree upon

Write it together, sign it, and review it monthly.

Take Turns Planning Mystery Date Experiences

Predictability kills marriages faster than most couples realize, and I’ve seen too many relationships die from the slow poison of routine. You’re going through the motions, eating dinner at the same restaurant, watching Netflix every Friday night. That’s not connection, that’s coexistence.

Your partner plans something completely secret, you show up ready for anything. Creative date ideas don’t require big budgets, they require thoughtfulness. Maybe it’s a midnight picnic, a pottery class, or exploring a neighborhood you’ve never visited together. The mystery forces you both to be present, curious, and engaged with each other again.

Practice Active Forgiveness Exercises

Resentment builds up like plaque in your arteries, and most couples don’t realize they’re carrying around years of unspoken hurt until it’s choking the life out of their relationship. I can tell you that active forgiveness isn’t about forgetting, it’s about deliberately choosing to release that toxic grip on past wounds.

Write detailed letters expressing your pain without sending them, then burn them ceremonially together
Practice sincere repentance by acknowledging specific hurts you’ve caused, not just saying “I’m sorry”
Develop compassionate understanding by genuinely trying to see your partner’s perspective during conflicts
Create forgiveness rituals like weekly check-ins where you address small grievances before they fester

I’ve never seen a marriage survive without this essential skill.

Create a Relationship Emergency Protocol

Even couples who’ve mastered forgiveness need a game plan for when their relationship hits rock bottom, and I can tell you that most marriages fail because partners panic and make devastating decisions in the heat of major crises.

Your emergency protocol starts with establishing open communication channels before disaster strikes. I’ve never seen a couple survive without knowing exactly how they’ll talk when everything’s falling apart. Write down specific steps: who calls timeout first, where you’ll meet to talk, what words you’ll avoid.

Next, identify how you’ll manage emotional triggers during emergencies. Create code words that mean “I’m overwhelmed but still fighting for us.” Practice deep breathing together. I can tell you this preparation prevents those relationship-ending moments when emotions hijack your better judgment completely.

Implement Sacred Pause Techniques During Conflicts

When you’re locked in heated conflict with your spouse, the difference between saying something that heals and something that destroys often comes down to a single breath.

I can tell you from watching countless marriages either recover or crumble—the sacred pause is your lifeline. This isn’t about winning arguments; it’s about saving your connection when everything’s falling apart.

Here’s how to implement this technique:

Stop mid-sentence when you feel rage building and say “I need a moment”
Take three deep breaths while looking away from your spouse
Ask yourself: “Will these words build us up or tear us down?”
Return with intention to cultivate mutual understanding, not prove you’re right

This pause helps you explore emotional triggers before they explode your marriage.

Practice Tantric Breathing Exercises Together

The most powerful tool I’ve discovered for rebuilding intimacy isn’t therapy or weekend retreats—it’s something you can do right now in your bedroom, fully clothed, in just ten minutes. I can tell you that deep breathing together creates an immediate energetic connection that cuts through resentment, anger, and emotional walls.

Sit facing each other, close your eyes, and synchronize your breath patterns. Start with four counts in, hold for four, exhale for six. I’ve never seen anything restore physical and emotional intimacy faster than this shared meditation practice. Your nervous systems literally attune to each other, creating trust and vulnerability without words.

Do this daily for one week, and you’ll sense the shift. Your bodies recollect how to connect before your minds catch up.

Write Joint Letters to Your Future Selves

Although most couples focus on their past problems or present conflicts, I can tell you that writing letters to your future selves together forces you to envision a shared tomorrow—and that shared vision becomes the foundation for healing today.

Set aside an evening to collaborate on a relationship manifesto, then write love letters to your younger selves, sharing what you’ve learned. I’ve never seen couples argue while they’re dreaming together about their future.

Focus on these emotional elements:

Shared dreams you’ll accomplish in five years
Daily rituals that’ll keep you connected
Forgiveness you’ll offer each other for past mistakes
Legacy you want to leave together

Seal these letters, open them annually. This exercise creates accountability, hope, and reminds you why you’re fighting for this marriage.

Create Physical Intimacy Without Sexual Pressure

If your marriage feels like roommates living under the same roof, rebuilding physical connection without the pressure of sex becomes your lifeline back to each other. Non sexual intimacy can save marriages when spouses feel disconnected, and I can tell you it works faster than most couples expect.

Start with simple touches throughout the day – hand-holding during movies, brief shoulder rubs while they’re cooking, gentle hugs without expecting more. Schedule weekly sensual massage sessions where you take turns focusing solely on relaxation, not arousal. Set clear boundaries beforehand that this isn’t leading to sex.

I’ve never seen couples fail when they consistently practice daily physical affection. Your bodies recollect love through touch, even when your hearts feel distant.

Practice Daily Meditation or Mindfulness Together

While your bodies reconnect through touch, your minds need the same intentional rebuilding, and meditation creates that shared mental space where marriages heal from the inside out. I can tell you that couples who create guided meditations together develop an emotional synchronicity that transforms their entire relationship dynamic.

Start with these powerful approaches:

Morning silence sessions – Sit together for ten minutes, breathing in unison, setting your marriage’s daily intention
Evening gratitude practice – Share three things you appreciated about each other before bed
Walking meditations – Stroll without phones, focusing only on your steps and each other’s presence
Mindful meal preparation – Cook together in complete awareness, talking softly about your day

When you incorporate mindful activities regularly, you’re rewiring your brains to prioritize connection over conflict, creating lasting intimacy.

Implement the Two-Chair Exercise for Perspective Taking

After you’ve strengthened your mental connection through mindfulness, you need a powerful tool that forces both partners to truly understand each other’s emotional reality, and the two-chair exercise delivers that breakthrough moment when empathy replaces defensiveness.

Set up two chairs facing each other. One partner sits and expresses their feelings about a specific issue for three minutes while the other listens silently. Then you switch chairs, and the listener repeats back what they heard, capturing both words and emotions. I can tell you this isn’t about agreement, it’s about empathetic listening and seeing your partner’s pain without judgment.

This exercise creates mutual understanding because you’re literally stepping into each other’s position. I’ve never seen couples fail to have major breakthroughs when they commit to this process consistently.

Create a Relationship Recovery Journal

Once you’ve established that empathetic connection through the two-chair exercise, you need to capture those insights and track your progress through a dedicated relationship recovery journal that becomes your roadmap back to intimacy.

Writing creates clarity when emotions run wild. Create theme-based pages for different relationship aspects, and develop daily writing prompts that dig deeper into your patterns.

Your journal should include:

Daily gratitude entries about your partner, even when you’re angry
Conflict analysis pages documenting what triggered fights and your role
Intimacy tracking noting moments of genuine connection, however small
Progress celebrations recording breakthrough conversations and healing milestones

I’ve never seen a couple rebuild without honest self-reflection. This journal becomes your accountability partner, forcing you to confront uncomfortable truths while celebrating small victories.

Practice Energy Healing or Reiki Sessions

Beyond writing and self-reflection, you need to address the energetic wounds that traditional therapy often misses, and energy healing or Reiki sessions can repair the invisible damage that arguments and betrayal create in your relationship field. I can tell you that couples who’ve tried everything else often find breakthrough healing through these practices. When you’re both energetically balanced, communication flows naturally again.

Start by booking individual Reiki sessions to clear personal blockages, then progress to couples sessions. Connect with nature between treatments by walking barefoot together, grounding your shared energy. Join group meditation circles to amplify healing intentions. I’ve never seen anything work faster for removing resentment’s energetic residue. These sessions don’t replace counseling, but they’ll restore the energetic foundation your marriage needs.

Establish New Boundaries With Extended Family and Friends

While your marriage heals, you’ll discover that some family members and friends aren’t cheering for your recovery, and you need to create firm boundaries with people who fuel conflict or undermine your progress. I can tell you from experience, toxic relatives who’ve always stirred drama won’t magically change now. They’ll keep pushing buttons, creating tension between you and your spouse.

Toxic relatives won’t magically transform into cheerleaders for your marriage recovery—they’ll keep stirring drama and undermining your progress.

You must set clear guest visitation guidelines and discuss personal space needs with your partner. Here’s what works:

Limit toxic in-laws’ access – No more surprise visits or extended stays
Screen phone calls together – Don’t let manipulative relatives corner either spouse alone
Create a united front – Present decisions as “we’ve decided,” never “he said” or “she said”
Establish consequences – Follow through when boundaries get crossed, no exceptions

Your marriage comes first, period.

Plan a Renewal Ceremony to Symbolize Your Fresh Start

After months of hard work rebuilding trust and communication, you’ll want to mark this transformation with something meaningful, and a renewal ceremony gives you both the chance to publicly recommit while washing away the pain of your past. I can tell you that couples who recommit wedding vows often experience a profound emotional shift that solidifies their progress.

You don’t need an expensive event, just something that feels significant to both of you. Consider writing new vows that acknowledge your journey through darkness and your commitment to staying together. When you renew relationship commitment publicly, you’re telling your support system that you’ve chosen each other again. I’ve never seen a couple regret this symbolic fresh start.

Conclusion

You’ve got 33 powerful tools now, and I can tell you they work when you’re desperate enough to use them. Your marriage isn’t dead until you stop fighting for it. These aren’t feel-good tips – they’re last-resort weapons against divorce. Pick three strategies that scare you most and start there. If you’re both still breathing, there’s still hope. Stop making excuses and choose your spouse again, starting today.