Quiz: Does Your Husband Still Want You?

Because mixed signals are exhausting and you deserve to know where you stand

Okay honey, let’s talk about that elephant in the room that’s been sitting there eating all the romance and leaving crumbs everywhere. You know the one – that nagging feeling that maybe your husband isn’t as into you as he used to be. Maybe the spark has dimmed to more of a gentle flicker, or maybe you’re wondering if he even notices you anymore unless you’re asking him to take out the trash.

Look, every long-term relationship goes through phases. Sometimes you’re all over each other like teenagers, and sometimes you’re more like polite roommates who happen to share a Netflix password. But when you start questioning whether he still actually wants you? That hits different, doesn’t it?

This isn’t about whether he loves you (that’s a whole other conversation), but whether there’s still that spark, that desire, that “I can’t keep my hands off you” energy that made you feel like the most irresistible woman on the planet.

Here’s how we’re gonna figure this out:

• 15 real questions about his behavior, not just surface stuff
• Be honest even if the truth stings a little
• Track your points – each answer tells us something
• Get clear answers about where his desire level actually stands

Ready to find out if you’re still his “can’t resist” or if you’ve moved into “comfortable companion” territory? Let’s dive in. 💫

🔥 Question 1: How often does he initiate physical intimacy?

a) Still reaches for me regularly and seems genuinely interested (0 points)

b) Sometimes initiates, but not as much as before (1 point)

c) Rarely takes the lead – it’s usually me making the first move (2 points)

d) What intimacy? I’d get more action from a mannequin (3 points)

👀 Question 2: When you get dressed up or try to look nice, he:

a) Notices immediately and tells me I look amazing (0 points)

b) Usually notices and gives me a compliment (1 point)

c) Sometimes notices if I point it out (2 points)

d) Could walk by in a ballgown and he’d ask what’s for dinner (3 points)

📱 Question 3: How does he look at you throughout the day?

a) Still catches him checking me out or giving me those “want you” looks (0 points)

b) Looks at me with love but not necessarily that heated gaze (1 point)

c) Mostly practical looks – like I’m furniture he’s fond of (2 points)

d) Barely makes eye contact unless he needs something (3 points)

🛏️ Question 4: During intimate moments, he seems:

a) Totally present and into it – focused on me and us (0 points)

b) Engaged but maybe not as intense as before (1 point)

c) Going through the motions or seems distracted (2 points)

d) Like he’s checking items off a to-do list (3 points)

💬 Question 5: How often does he flirt with you or make suggestive comments?

a) Still gets playful and flirty regularly (0 points)

b) Occasional flirting, usually when we’re in a good mood (1 point)

c) Rarely flirts – we’re more like business partners (2 points)

d) The most suggestive thing he says is “pass the remote” (3 points)

🤗 Question 6: His casual physical affection (touches, hugs, kisses):

a) Still touchy and affectionate throughout the day (0 points)

b) Some casual touches but less than before (1 point)

c) Mostly quick pecks and obligatory hugs (2 points)

d) We have less physical contact than me and the mailman (3 points)

🌙 Question 7: When you’re getting ready for bed, he:

a) Watches me and sometimes gets that “interested” look (0 points)

b) Occasionally pays attention to my bedtime routine (1 point)

c) Usually on his phone or already half asleep (2 points)

d) Treats my presence like background noise (3 points)

💃 Question 8: When you dance, laugh, or act playful around him:

a) Joins in and seems drawn to my energy (0 points)

b) Smiles and enjoys it but doesn’t always participate (1 point)

c) Tolerates it but doesn’t seem particularly engaged (2 points)

d) Acts like I’m being annoying or childish (3 points)

👗 Question 9: His reaction to your body and appearance:

a) Still appreciates and desires my body as it is now (0 points)

b) Generally positive but not as vocal about it (1 point)

c) Neutral or makes comments about “how I used to look” (2 points)

d) Makes me feel self-conscious or unwanted (3 points)

🎯 Question 10: When other people compliment you or show interest:

a) Gets a little possessive or proud – still sees me as a catch (0 points)

b) Notices but doesn’t seem bothered either way (1 point)

c) Doesn’t really notice or care when others find me attractive (2 points)

d) Acts like he can’t understand why anyone would be interested (3 points)

🗣️ Question 11: How he talks about your relationship to others:

a) Still brags about me or talks about how lucky he is (0 points)

b) Says nice things but doesn’t gush like he used to (1 point)

c) Pretty neutral – talks about me like a good friend (2 points)

d) Complains about me or acts single when I’m not around (3 points)

🎁 Question 12: His effort in romance and surprises:

a) Still tries to romance me and plan special things (0 points)

b) Occasional romantic gestures, usually for special occasions (1 point)

c) Romance requires me dropping major hints (2 points)

d) Romance died faster than my houseplants (3 points)

💕 Question 13: When you’re apart (work, trips, etc.), he:

a) Misses me and is excited when I come home (0 points)

b) Happy to see me but doesn’t seem like he was pining away (1 point)

c) Doesn’t seem to miss me much or notice when I’m gone (2 points)

d) Acts like my absence is more peaceful than my presence (3 points)

🔥 Question 14: His general energy and enthusiasm around you:

a) Still lights up when I walk in the room (0 points)

b) Happy to see me but not necessarily energized (1 point)

c) Pretty flat energy – I don’t seem to affect his mood much (2 points)

d) More energetic when I’m not around than when I am (3 points)

💭 Question 15: If you asked him directly if he still finds you desirable:

a) He’d be genuinely enthusiastic and convincing in his answer (0 points)

b) He’d say yes but maybe not with total conviction (1 point)

c) He’d say yes but it would feel obligatory or rehearsed (2 points)

d) He’d get defensive or change the subject (3 points)

🧮 Calculate Your Score

Time for the moment of truth, babe. Add up all your points from the 15 questions. Your total should be somewhere between 0 and 45.

Got your number? Let’s see what it really means:

📊 Your Results

🟢 0-15 Points: Girl, He’s Still Got It Bad for You

Honey, exhale and smile! Based on your answers, your husband is definitely still feeling that desire for you. Like, the man is still smitten and you probably don’t even realize how much power you still have over him.

What you’re describing sounds like a man who still sees you as his sexy, desirable wife, not just his life partner who knows where he keeps his reading glasses. He’s still checking you out, still making an effort, and still treating you like someone he actively wants to be with – not just someone he’s gotten used to having around.

Sure, it might not be the same intensity as your honeymoon phase when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other and burned dinner because you were too busy making out against the kitchen counter. But let’s be real – that level of intensity isn’t sustainable when you also have to remember to pay the electric bill and figure out whose turn it is to clean the bathroom.

What you’ve got is actually pretty special: mature desire mixed with deep love. He knows all your quirks, has seen you at your worst, and still wants you. That’s not settling – that’s striking gold in the relationship lottery.

Keep nurturing this connection by continuing to flirt with each other, making an effort to look good (for you, not just him), and staying playful. Sometimes we get so caught up in wondering if they still want us that we forget to show them we still want them too.

🟡 16-30 Points: The Spark Needs Some Attention

Okay, so we’re in the “it’s complicated” zone here. Your husband isn’t completely checked out, but he’s definitely not operating at full desire level either. Think of it like your phone battery – not dead, but definitely not at 100% and probably needs some charging.

Here’s what’s likely happening: life got in the way. Work stress, kids, bills, that never-ending list of home repairs, and the general chaos of adulting has pushed romance and desire to the back burner. You’re both probably running on autopilot more than you’d like to admit.

The good news? This is actually pretty common and totally fixable if you both want to fix it. The desire is probably still there underneath all the daily grind – it just needs some CPR (that’s Couple’s Passionate Revival, not the medical kind, though sometimes it feels like a life-or-death situation).

Here’s what might help: Start small. Flirt with him like you did when you were dating. Touch him more. Compliment him. Be the energy you want to see in your relationship. Sometimes one person has to go first, and honestly? You’re already ahead of the game because you’re paying attention to this stuff.

Also, talk to him about it. Not in an accusatory “you never want me anymore” way, but more like “I miss feeling desired by you” or “I want us to prioritize our connection more.” Most guys have no idea we’re even thinking about this stuff.

The bottom line: This is a yellow light, not a red one. With some effort from both of you, you can absolutely get that spark back to a healthy flame instead of just smoldering embers.

🔴 31-45 Points: Houston, We Have a Problem

I’m gonna be real with you because you deserve honesty, not false comfort. What you’re describing sounds like your husband has checked out of the desire department, and that’s not okay for a marriage where both people are still supposed to be, you know, married.

This isn’t about him being tired from work or you both being in a busy phase of life. This is about him treating you more like a really good friend he happens to live with rather than a woman he’s attracted to and wants to be intimate with. And girl, that hurts in a way that’s hard to even put into words.

Here’s what I need you to understand: This isn’t necessarily about your attractiveness or worth as a woman. Sometimes people get so comfortable in relationships that they stop seeing their partner as someone they need to pursue or desire. It’s like relationship autopilot, and it’s unfortunately more common than it should be.

But here’s what’s not okay – you feeling unwanted in your own marriage. You didn’t sign up to be a convenient life companion. You signed up to be loved, desired, and cherished by the person who chose to spend their life with you.

What you need to do: This requires a serious conversation, probably multiple conversations. You need to tell him how his lack of interest is affecting you and your marriage. Not hints, not subtle comments – direct, honest communication about what you need from him as your husband.

If he’s receptive and willing to work on it, that’s a good sign. Maybe consider couples counseling to help navigate this together. But if he dismisses your concerns or acts like wanting to feel desired by your own husband is asking too much? That tells you something important about how he views your needs and your marriage.

Remember this: You deserve to feel wanted and desired in your marriage. That’s not vanity or neediness – that’s a basic part of a romantic relationship. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise, especially not the person who’s supposed to make you feel most loved.

💝 A Final Word (Because Your Heart Matters)

Taking this quiz probably brought up some feelings, and I want you to know that whatever you’re feeling right now is valid. Whether it’s relief, concern, or that complicated mix of both – your emotions about this are completely legitimate.

Here’s what I want you to remember: Feeling desired by your partner isn’t a luxury or something that only matters in the beginning of a relationship. It’s a fundamental part of feeling loved and valued in a romantic partnership. You’re not asking for too much when you want your husband to still see you as an attractive, desirable woman.

If your results were good, celebrate that connection and keep nurturing it. Don’t take it for granted, but also don’t stress about every little fluctuation in attention.

If your results were in the middle, use this as motivation to have some conversations and make some changes. Most relationship issues in this category are totally fixable with effort from both people.

If your results were concerning, please don’t ignore what you’re feeling. You deserve to address this head-on, even if it’s uncomfortable. Your happiness and fulfillment in your marriage matter.

Whatever your score, remember that you are worthy of desire, love, and passion. Don’t let anyone – including yourself – convince you that wanting to feel wanted is somehow shallow or unrealistic.

You matter. Your needs matter. And you deserve a marriage where you feel truly cherished.

Keep being amazing, beautiful. 💪✨