170 Sexy Goodnight Texts For Your Spouse

Okay, so can we talk about how weird it is that we spend all day being responsible adults, doing laundry and paying bills and pretending we have our lives together, and then nighttime rolls around and suddenly we’re supposed to know how to be sexy via text message?

Like, I’ll be standing in the kitchen loading the dishwasher, thinking about groceries and whether we need more toilet paper, and then I want to send my husband something spicy before bed and my brain just goes completely blank. What happened to all those smooth moves from when we were dating? Oh right, they got buried under mortgage payments and whose turn it is to take out the trash.

But here’s the thing I’ve learned after years of marriage: keeping that spark alive through little things like sexy goodnight texts? It actually matters. A lot. Because it’s easy to fall into the roommate trap where you’re just coexisting and handling logistics, and suddenly you realize it’s been three weeks since you did anything remotely romantic.

So I’ve put together this absolutely massive list of 170 sexy goodnight texts for your spouse. And yeah, I said 170 because why not? Some nights you want something playfully flirty, other nights you want to straight up tell them exactly what you’re thinking, and sometimes you just want to plant a little seed in their mind before they fall asleep so they wake up thinking about you.

Fair warning: some of these are sweet-sexy, some are medium-spicy, and some are definitely-wait-until-the-kids-are-asleep level. I’ve organized them so you can find exactly the vibe you’re going for, because not every night calls for the same energy, you know?

The Playfully Flirty Ones (Testing the Waters)

These are perfect for when you want to be sexy without being too intense. Like, sexy with a wink emoji energy.

1. “Goodnight. Try not to dream about me too much 😏”
2. “Going to bed now, but I’d rather be going to bed with you”
3. “Sweet dreams. And if you dream about me, I want details in the morning”
4. “Goodnight to my favorite person to wake up next to. And fall asleep next to. And everything in between”
5. “I’m going to bed but I’m definitely thinking about you. In very specific ways”
6. “Sleep tight. I’ll be the one in your dreams doing that thing you like”
7. “Goodnight babe. Tomorrow night I’m definitely keeping you up later”
8. “Just so you know, you look really good in my imagination right now”
9. “Heading to bed and wishing you were here to tuck me in. Among other things”
10. “Goodnight. Can’t wait to see you tomorrow so I can show you what I’m thinking about right now”

The Sweet But Sexy Ones (Love + Desire)

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These mix romance with heat, perfect for when you want him to know you love him AND want him.

11. “I love falling asleep thinking about you. Especially when I’m thinking about you like this”
12. “Goodnight to the person who makes my heart race and my body feel things I can’t even put into words”
13. “I’m so lucky you’re mine. All mine. Forever mine. Going to bed thinking about exactly why”
14. “You’re the last thing on my mind before I sleep and honestly, what I’m thinking is pretty rated-R”
15. “Goodnight my love. Can’t wait to wake up next to you and pick up where my dreams left off”
16. “I fall more in love with you every day. And fall more in lust with you every night”
17. “You’re my everything, and right now everything I’m thinking about involves way less clothing”
18. “Sweet dreams to my person. You make me feel things that still surprise me after all this time”
19. “I love you so much it scares me. Also you’re really hot and I can’t stop thinking about it”
20. “Goodnight to my best friend, my partner, and the person who knows exactly how to drive me wild”

The “I Miss You” Sexy Ones (When You’re Apart)

For those nights when you’re not in the same bed and you want them to really feel your absence.

21. “This bed is too big without you in it. And too cold. And too boring”
22. “I miss your hands on me. Like, really miss them. Goodnight from over here where I’m lonely”
23. “Can’t sleep because I keep thinking about what we’d be doing if you were here right now”
24. “Goodnight. Wish I could show you in person what I’m imagining instead of just texting about it”
25. “Missing you in ways that are definitely not appropriate for a goodnight text. Sending it anyway”
26. “The only thing that would make tonight better is you. Here. Doing that thing. You know the one”
27. “I’m counting down the hours until I can actually touch you instead of just thinking about touching you”
28. “Goodnight. I’m going to bed frustrated because you’re not here and it’s all your fault”
29. “This pillow is a terrible substitute for you. 0/10, would not recommend sleeping alone”
30. “Missing every single thing about you right now. Especially the things I can’t say in polite company”

The Bold and Direct Ones (No Subtlety Here)

Sometimes you just gotta say what you mean. These leave nothing to the imagination.

31. “I want you. Like right now. But I guess goodnight will have to do until tomorrow”
32. “Going to bed but all I can think about is what I want to do to you”
33. “Goodnight. Fair warning, I’m having very inappropriate thoughts about you right now”
34. “I need you in ways I probably shouldn’t text about but here we are”
35. “Tomorrow night, we’re not sleeping. Just letting you know in advance”
36. “Goodnight. P.S. I’m not wearing much and thinking about you”
37. “I want your body against mine. Since that’s not possible, I guess I’ll just dream about it”
38. “You make me feel things that should probably come with a warning label. Goodnight”
39. “I’m going to bed but I’d much rather be doing you. Goodnight babe”
40. “Just so we’re clear: tomorrow I’m attacking you the second I see you. Sleep well”

The Teasing Ones (Build Anticipation)

These are designed to get in their head and make them think about you all night and into tomorrow.

41. “I have plans for you tomorrow. Very specific plans. Sleep tight 😏”
42. “Goodnight. Oh, and I bought something new today. You’ll see it tomorrow”
43. “I’m not going to tell you what I’m thinking about right now. You’ll just have to wonder until morning”
44. “Sweet dreams. Mine are definitely going to involve you and significantly less clothes”
45. “I’m thinking about tomorrow night. You should be too”
46. “Goodnight. I’d tell you what I’m wearing but I think I’ll let you imagine instead”
47. “Sleep well because tomorrow night I’m planning to keep you very, very awake”
48. “I might have a surprise for you tomorrow. Or I might not. Guess you’ll have to wait and see”
49. “Goodnight babe. Hope you dream about me. And what I’m planning to do to you”
50. “Going to bed now but marking tomorrow night on my calendar for… activities”

The Romantic and Steamy Ones (Perfect Balance)

These hit that sweet spot between loving and lusty. The best of both worlds.

51. “I love you so much and also I really want to kiss you everywhere right now. Goodnight”
52. “You’re my forever person and my right-now-I-want-you person all at once”
53. “Goodnight to the love of my life who also happens to be incredibly sexy”
54. “I’m the luckiest person alive because I get to love you and desire you all at the same time”
55. “You make my heart full and my body tingle and I wouldn’t have it any other way”
56. “Goodnight my love. I’m falling asleep thinking about your touch and your kiss and everything else”
57. “I love everything about you, including all the ways you make me feel that I can’t say out loud in public”
58. “You’re my soulmate and my incredibly hot spouse and I’m so grateful for both”
59. “Goodnight. I love you deeply, passionately, and in several ways I’ll show you tomorrow”
60. “You’re my person forever, and right now my person is making me feel all kinds of ways”

The Compliment + Sexy Combo (Boost Their Confidence)

Everyone likes to hear they’re attractive. These remind your spouse just how hot you think they are.

61. “How did I get so lucky to marry someone this attractive? Goodnight to my gorgeous spouse”
62. “You looked so good today I’m still thinking about it. And I’m thinking about taking it all off”
63. “Goodnight to the sexiest person I know. Who also happens to be all mine”
64. “I can’t stop thinking about how hot you are. Like seriously, it’s a problem. Goodnight”
65. “You’re aging like fine wine and it’s honestly unfair how attractive you are”
66. “Goodnight to my incredibly sexy spouse who has no idea how good they look”
67. “The way you looked at me today? Yeah, I’m still recovering. Sweet dreams”
68. “How are you this attractive after all these years? It’s ridiculous. Goodnight beautiful”
69. “I’m so attracted to you it actually distracts me from functioning like a normal human. Sleep well”
70. “Goodnight to the person who makes my heart race just by existing. You’re unbelievably hot”

The “Remember When” Ones (Nostalgia + Heat)

These reference your shared history and make them remember why the spark is still there.

71. “Remember last weekend? Because I do. Vividly. And I want a repeat. Goodnight”
72. “Thinking about that thing we did last month. We should definitely do that again. Soon”
73. “Goodnight. Still thinking about this morning and how we definitely need to do that every day”
74. “Remember our honeymoon? Let’s recreate that energy tomorrow night”
75. “That night last week? Yeah, I can’t stop thinking about it. Round 2 tomorrow?”
76. “Goodnight. P.S. I’m still not over what happened in the kitchen yesterday”
77. “Remember when we couldn’t keep our hands off each other? Let’s get back to that. Starting tomorrow”
78. “I’m thinking about that time we [insert your memory]. We need to do that again ASAP”
79. “Goodnight. Been replaying this afternoon in my head and I’m definitely not mad about it”
80. “Remember that thing you did that one time that blew my mind? Do that again. Goodnight”

The Humorous But Sexy Ones (Keep It Light)

Because sexy doesn’t always have to be serious. Sometimes laughter is the best foreplay.

81. “Goodnight. I’d Netflix and chill with you but we’re married so it’s more like ‘mutual agreement to ignore the dishes and make out instead'”
82. “I’m going to bed. Alone. Like a chump. This is your fault for not being here right now”
83. “Goodnight. Tomorrow we’re having sex. I’m scheduling it like a dentist appointment but sexier”
84. “Sleep tight. I’m over here thinking inappropriate thoughts like some kind of teenager with a crush”
85. “Goodnight to my spouse who I definitely married for their personality. The hotness was just a bonus”
86. “I’d say sweet dreams but honestly I hope you have dirty dreams. About me. Obviously”
87. “Going to bed frustrated. Not the bad frustrated, the good frustrated. You know what I mean”
88. “Goodnight. Trying to be sexy via text is weird but here I am, giving it my best shot”
89. “I’m going to sleep. But first I’m going to think about you. A lot. In various states of undress”
90. “Sweet dreams. Mine will probably be R-rated and starring you in every scene”

The Morning Preview Ones (Set Up Tomorrow)

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These plant the idea of what’s coming when you wake up together.

91. “Goodnight. Tomorrow morning you’re waking up to something very nice. Me, climbing on top of you”
92. “Sleep well because tomorrow morning I’m starting your day off very, very right”
93. “Sweet dreams. When you wake up, I’m going to show you exactly what I was dreaming about”
94. “Goodnight babe. Set your alarm early because I have morning plans for us”
95. “Tomorrow morning before coffee, before breakfast, before anything else, I want you”
96. “Sleep tight. The best part of tomorrow is going to be the first five minutes after you wake up”
97. “Goodnight. Tomorrow’s forecast: 100% chance of morning sex”
98. “I’m going to bed but I’m setting a reminder to wake you up in a very specific way tomorrow”
99. “Sweet dreams. Tomorrow morning you’re going to love how I say good morning”
100. “Goodnight my love. Can’t wait to start tomorrow with you. Before we even get out of bed”

The Appreciation + Desire Ones (You’re Amazing AND Hot)

These show them you value them as a person AND find them incredibly attractive.

101. “I love who you are and I want your body. Both can be true. Goodnight”
102. “You’re an amazing partner and also incredibly sexy. I won the lottery with you”
103. “Goodnight to my best friend who I also can’t stop thinking about naked”
104. “I respect you deeply and desire you wildly. That’s the dream right there”
105. “You make me laugh, you make me think, and you make me feel things that should be illegal. Goodnight”
106. “I love your mind and your body and everything in between. Sleep well”
107. “Goodnight to the person who’s both my safe place and my wild adventure”
108. “You’re brilliant and sexy and I can’t believe I get to have both”
109. “I admire you as a person and crave you as a lover. Best of both worlds”
110. “Goodnight. You’re incredible in every way including the ways I’m thinking about right now”

The Late Night Confessions (Deep + Sexy)

For when it’s really late and you’re in your feelings and also your hormones.

111. “Can’t sleep. Keep thinking about you and how much I want you right now”
112. “It’s 2am and all I can think about is how badly I need you next to me”
113. “Wide awake thinking thoughts about you that I probably shouldn’t be thinking this late”
114. “Can’t turn my brain off because it keeps replaying every time you’ve touched me”
115. “Still up. Still thinking about you. Still wishing you were here doing things to me”
116. “It’s late and I should be sleeping but instead I’m texting you about how much I want you”
117. “Lying here in the dark thinking about your hands, your lips, your everything”
118. “Should be asleep but I’m too busy imagining all the things I want to do with you”
119. “It’s ridiculous o’clock and I’m still up because I can’t stop wanting you”
120. “Too late to be awake, too distracted by thoughts of you to fall asleep”

The “I’m Already in Bed” Ones (Set the Scene)

These paint a picture of where you are and what you’re thinking.

121. “In bed now. Wearing your favorite thing. Wishing you were here to take it off”
122. “Just got into bed and immediately thought about how much better it would be with you in it”
123. “Lying here thinking about the last time we were in this bed together. Tomorrow night, repeat?”
124. “In bed, under the covers, thinking about you warming me up”
125. “Just my luck, I’m in bed ready for sleep but my body is ready for you”
126. “Settled in for the night but I’d unsettle myself real quick if you walked through that door”
127. “In bed but restless because this bed works better when you’re in it”
128. “Lying here in the dark imagining it’s your hands instead of these covers touching me”
129. “Finally in bed but all I can think about is that we should be doing more than sleeping”
130. “Tucked in for the night and tucked in alone which seems like a waste honestly”

The Build Up for the Weekend Ones (Friday Night Energy)

Perfect for weeknight texts when you know the weekend is coming and you can actually stay up late.

131. “Goodnight. This weekend I’m keeping you in bed all day Saturday. Fair warning”
132. “Sleep well because this weekend we’re making up for all these boring weeknight goodnights”
133. “Only two more nights of responsible bedtimes before the weekend. I have plans”
134. “Goodnight babe. This weekend = no alarm clocks and lots of us time”
135. “Sweet dreams. On Saturday morning we’re sleeping in and then we’re not sleeping at all”
136. “Counting down to the weekend when we can actually stay up and do all the things I’m thinking about”
137. “Goodnight. Weekend forecast is heavy morning fog with a high chance of staying in bed til noon”
138. “Almost the weekend which means almost time to stop being responsible adults. Can’t wait”
139. “Sleep tight. Saturday plans: you, me, and not leaving the bedroom until we absolutely have to”
140. “Goodnight. This weekend I’m making you forget what day it is. That’s a promise”

The After a Great Day Together Ones (Keep the Momentum)

For when you’ve already had a good day and you want the goodnight to match that energy.

141. “Today was amazing. Tomorrow let’s make it even better. Goodnight”
142. “You looked so good today I’m still not over it. Sweet dreams beautiful”
143. “Best day ever. Let’s end it right. Come to bed”
144. “Had such a good day with you. Now let’s have an even better night. Goodnight for now”
145. “You made today perfect. Now come over here and make tonight perfect too”
146. “What a day. Goodnight to my favorite person who made all of it worthwhile”
147. “Today was great but honestly I’m most excited about going to bed thinking about you”
148. “Such a good day. Let’s celebrate by doing absolutely nothing tomorrow except each other”
149. “You were amazing today. Like always. Goodnight to my incredible spouse”
150. “Perfect day. Perfect person. About to have perfect dreams about you”

The Extra Spicy Ones (Turn Up the Heat)

Okay these are definitely for when you’re alone and the kids are asleep and you’re feeling BOLD.

151. “I’m touching myself thinking about you. Goodnight, I guess, though sleep is the last thing on my mind”
152. “Just so you know, when you get home tomorrow I’m dragging you straight to the bedroom”
153. “I want to do things to you that I can’t even type out. Use your imagination. Goodnight”
154. “Can’t stop thinking about every single thing I want to do with your body. Sleep well”
155. “I’m going to bed now but I’ll be up for a while thinking about you inside me”
156. “Tomorrow I want you rough. Goodnight and think about that”
157. “Wish you were here so I could show you exactly what’s on my mind instead of trying to text it”
158. “I need your hands on me like right now but I guess tomorrow will have to do”
159. “Going to bed frustrated and it’s all your fault for being so far away. And so hot”
160. “I want you in every possible way. All at once. Tomorrow. Goodnight”

The Sweet Closer Ones (End on a Loving Note)

For when you’ve been flirty all night but want to end with genuine sweetness.

161. “Goodnight my love. You’re my everything, in every single way”
162. “Sweet dreams to my forever person. Can’t wait to wake up loving you all over again”
163. “I love you more than I can put into words. And I want you more than I can put into words. Goodnight”
164. “You’re my favorite person in the world. Sleep well beautiful”
165. “Goodnight to my best friend, my lover, my everything. Tomorrow can’t come soon enough”
166. “I’m so grateful you’re mine. All mine. Forever. Sweet dreams”
167. “You make every day better just by being you. Goodnight my love”
168. “I love you deeply, completely, and with my whole heart. Also you’re really hot. Sleep tight”
169. “Goodnight to my person. Thanks for being exactly who you are”
170. “Sweet dreams my love. I’ll be right here thinking about you until I fall asleep”

Here’s the Real Talk About Sexy Goodnight Texts

Look, I know some of you are reading this thinking “there’s no way I can send these to my spouse, we’re not like that anymore.” And I get it, I really do. Life happens, kids happen, stress happens, and suddenly you’re just two exhausted people passing each other in the hallway mumbling about whose turn it is to do bedtime.

But here’s what I’ve learned: you don’t magically get your spark back by waiting for the perfect moment or for life to calm down (spoiler alert: it never does). You get it back by making small efforts, like sending a sexy text before bed even when you’re tired and even when it feels a little awkward at first.

My husband and I went through a phase where we were basically just roommates who shared a mortgage. And one night I sent him something flirty, kind of like the texts on this list, and he called me immediately. Not to have phone sex or anything dramatic, just to laugh and say “did you really just send me that?” And it broke something open between us. Suddenly we were flirting again, teasing again, wanting each other again.

It doesn’t happen overnight. Some nights you’ll send something spicy and get back “lol ok goodnight” because he’s half asleep already. Some nights he won’t respond the way you hoped. That’s fine. The point isn’t to be perfect at sexting your spouse, it’s to remind both of you that you’re still those people underneath all the responsibilities.

When to Send These (and When Not To)

Good times:

• When you’ve both had a decent day and seem in good moods
• After you’ve already been flirty that day
• When you know they’re alone and can actually read and respond
• Weekend nights when you can actually follow through
• When you’re missing them and want them to know

Maybe not great times:

• Right after a big fight (handle that first)
• When you know they’re stressed about something serious
• When they’re out with friends or at a work event
• When you haven’t talked all day and this would come out of nowhere
• If you’re only doing it because you feel obligated

The best sexy texts come from actual desire and connection, not from a sense of duty. If you’re not feeling it, don’t force it. But if you ARE feeling it and just don’t know what to say? That’s what this list is for.

Make It Yours

These texts are templates, not scripts. Change them up to fit how you actually talk to your spouse. If you never say “babe,” don’t start now. If you have inside jokes or pet names, use those. The goal is to sound like you, just the sexier, more confident version of you.

And honestly? Sometimes the sexiest thing you can send is something simple and genuine like “I want you” or “come to bed.” You don’t need to be a poet or come up with the perfect line. You just need to let them know they’re wanted.

Because at the end of the day, that’s what all of this is really about. Not the specific words, but the feeling behind them. The feeling of “I chose you once and I’m still choosing you, every single day, in every way.”

So pick a text from this list, or make up your own, and send it tonight. See what happens. Best case scenario, you have a great night together. Worst case scenario, you both laugh about it and go to sleep, which honestly isn’t even that bad.

Marriage is long. Keep it interesting. Send the sexy text. 💋